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Much is said about individual rights, but then, when it comes to social rights, they also want them, obviously contradicting each other in detail.

All people are different, therefore their sensitivities are different; what is a right for one person is an abuse for another, and this reflects cultural differences.

The solution, in my view, lies in first defining duties, for example: the duty to respect others. Obviously, many rights and behaviors will violate this duty, and therefore it must be mitigated.

In family matters, these ambiguities directly lead to divorce. Thinking about this issue, I arrived at a set of possible practices.

An example of these practices in a family, and to facilitate the creation of behavioral guidelines, as I am a rationalist, these guidelines should be discussed, mitigated, and resolved with complete equality:

– Previous: the past (whatever it may be) is overcome, because starting the relationship means that it has been accepted and overcome, even if it is a current behavior (at worst, it falls into the orange line).

– Red lines: these are those that cannot occur and that imply the end of the relationship. Example: Adultery, betrayal, and crime.

– Orange lines: these are those that cause embarrassment to one of the elements, and that can be mitigated or attenuated, but that no longer put the relationship at risk, but may lead to some social reticence; the person in question is aware of this strong discomfort they cause in the other. Example: some scenes of movie actors.

– Yellow lines: these are those that only cause discomfort to one of the elements, without impact. Example: smoking, age difference, or some publications on social networks and the internet.

– Green lines: fully accepted by both elements.

In life, all lines will appear; only as adults in a family are the red lines excluded. To think otherwise… is just teenage fantasy and Walt Disney tales.

The important thing is for both to reveal their lines, their dreams, and their behaviors. Hiding or camouflaging them won’t solve anything; it will only delay and increase the problem. A hidden orange line can then unconsciously and unintentionally become red. Similarly, pretending that an orange line is green is deceiving the partner and will later create resentment, even if unintentional.

Mistakenly, a relationship is not just a collection of sets; it is actually their intersection, meaning that everything outside the core is conscious in each of the elements and has implications.

After statistical analysis, I concluded that by applying these simple rules of communication and action regarding respect for others, more than 90% of divorces would cease to exist, because difference is healthy, it diminishes over time and adjusts and adapts to life (an orange color, with time, or mitigation and trust gained, turns yellow or green, and yellow turns green).

Critic: the rules and principles, with the objective of respecting the other, must be applied in an absolutely identical way to both without any exception; neither is better or worse than the other, only different.

Conclusion: Despite many seemingly insurmountable differences, once understood, analyzed together, and mitigated, they actually become merely characteristics of daily life and, curiously, reinforce the unity of the family nucleus, guaranteeing a very long-lasting relationship.